Maid of Honour
Many women feel the pressure of having to choose their ‘bestest’ friend for the honour of being maid at their wedding. By doing so, they feel like they are leaving one of their friends out or hurting their feelings. If your client asks your advice on choosing their Maid of Honor and Bestman, here’s a guide to helping them:
First of all, advise your client that she should realize that the responsibility of being in the wedding party is enormous. The Maid of Honour has a lot to do before and during the wedding itself, so she should choose someone that she thinks can handle it. Your client may feel that she has to choose a family member, but that is not necessary. She might include them as one of the wedding party, but if she has a really close friend that she wants to bestow the honour upon, then she should do so.
Advise her to find someone who isn’t overly busy or committed. If this person lives in the town that your client will be married in, that’s great too. Even if she’s out of town, they will still be able to visit each other and she can make arrangements while your client is at her home. Your client should also consider choosing someone who isn’t financially burdened. Hen parties, manicures, tanning, etc. all cost money, so your client will not want want to stretch them or have to pay all their expenses other than their dress and hair styling and makeup on the wedding day.
Just like choosing the Maid of Honour, the groom should not have to choose someone that “should” be the Best Man. He must be someone that the groom can count on to plan the stag party and to get the other groomsmen to stay on schedule. Of course, a groom’s best friend may fit this bill, so the decision might be easy. Again, advise the groom against picking someone who doesn’t have a lot of time or who is financially strapped. Picking someone to be their right-hand person is an important decision for the groom and an honour for the person that he asks.