There are some families that may have different members in them; some that wedding books and etiquette guides are struggling to keep up with. How can your client include everyone in such a way that all are equally important?
When it comes to step parents, most couples feel as though they are no different from their biological parents. So, they want to incorporate them into the invitation as well. And while traditionally, the parents are included, how does your client include everyone’s name? Many invitations start off with “Mr and Mrs X and X would like to announce the marriage of their daughter Blah Blah to Johnny XX, son of Mr and Mrs Smith.” In order to include both sets of parents, your client can just add them in at the beginning and end, denoting it with son of Mrs Smith and her husband Charlie and of Mr Whatever and his wife Something. It may sound awkward, but it can be done. Other couples have chosen to just include the names of their biological parents, referencing their present last names. That works just as well. If there is a parent that has been absent for the child’s life, then they do not have to be specified in the invitation.
When someone has passed on
If one of the couple would like to include their parent that has passed on, they can say something to the effect of “son of Mr Smith and the late Mrs Smith.” If both parents are deceased, your client may want to note this as “son of the late Mr and Mrs.” If someone has recently passed away, then your client may want to include this as a separate note, as a way to let their guests know and avoid any awkward moments. This is especially true if it was a recent event. Advise your clients to write and rewrite the wording and read their words aloud – to get a better sense of how it sounds – and then judge their choice from there.